Sideline Etiquette 101
- Coach Sullivan
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A Code of Conduct You’ll Actually Follow
By Morgan Sullivan, Athletic Director & Coach
Why We Need a Sideline Code
On most weekends, the soundtrack of youth sports is a mash-up of whistles, cheering, and—too often—adults losing their cool. Nationwide, officials are walking away, participation in organized sports has slipped 13 percent since 2019, and many kids cite “pressure from parents” as a reason for quitting altogether.
The irony? Every parent, coach, and athlete on the field wants the same thing: a positive, developmental experience. The disconnect comes when impulse overrides intention; when emotion trumps logic. That’s why the National Federation of State High School Associations (NFHS) made “modeling sportsmanship” a 2024 Point of Emphasis, reminding schools to set clear expectations for everyone on game day.
Below is a practical, bite-size code you can put on your refrigerator, in your team handbook, or on the back of season passes. No legalese—just habits that keep the focus where it belongs: on kids enjoying the game(s) they love.
The 6-Point Sideline Code
# | Guiding Habit | Real-Life Behaviors You’ll Actually See (and Hear) |
1 | Cheer Hustle, Attitude, Effort, Not Outcome | “Great hustle, #7!” when an athlete dives for a ball. Applause for a textbook pick-and-roll, great rebound, when a player runs hard on a ground ball (even if they get thrown out). Parents high-fiving after a long rally, regardless of who wins the point. |
2 | Let Coaches Coach | No verbs. Telling players what to do during the game is the role of the coach, not the fans in the stands. Yelling instructions to your athlete leaves the players confused at best, and often frustrated. Kids understand the roles - they want parents to support them, and coaches to instruct them. The loudest thing you yell is, “Let’s go, Tigers!”—never directions like “Pass left!” |
3 | Respect Officials — Always | Questionable call? You exhale, maybe raise eyebrows, but words never leave your lips. We expect players to move on to the next play, fans should, also. After the game, you greet the ref with “Thank you for working today.” If another spectator starts chirping, you pivot conversation or offer a calm “Let’s keep it positive.” |
4 | Model Composure | After a turnover you clap twice and sit back down—not stand up waving arms. Phone in hand? You’re recording highlights, not replay-sniping calls. Your facial expression resets as fast as the athletes move to the next play. |
5 | Celebrate Teammates Publicly, Critique Privately | You shout out “Nice block, Lydia!” instead of “Come on, shoot faster!” When your child looks your way, you give a thumbs-up and a smile, not tactical signals. Any constructive feedback is handled by the coach. If your kid asks for your opinion, it's a welcomed conversation. Until then, it's not helping. |
6 | Leave the Venue Better Than You Found It | Final horn sounds? You scan the bleacher for water bottles and programs. Help pick up trash from your area. High-five a volunteer ticket-taker on the way out. You exit chatting about the team’s grit, how much fun it was to watch the kids, and the good parts of the game, not the negatives about the officiating crew or the coaches. |
For Parents: Turning Good Intentions Into Good Habits
The Next Day Rule – Wait a full day before emailing the coach about playing time or strategy. Emotional distance breeds constructive conversation.
Car-Ride Check-In – Start with a question, not an analysis: “What was your favorite moment?” Let them steer the talk.
Sideline Buddy System – If you’re a chronic yeller, ask a friend to tap your shoulder when your volume creeps up.
Praise the Process – Compliment things the athlete can control (effort, attitude) rather than stats. Research shows process-praise builds resilience.
For Coaches: Setting the Tone Before Opening Day
Publish the Code Early – Include it in preseason packets and parent meetings.
Assign a “Culture Captain” – A trusted assistant or team parent can defuse small flare-ups before they escalate.
Model It Yourself – Officials will forgive a missed clipboard if you’re calm when calls go south.
Enforce Consistently – A gentle reminder first, a more stern reminder second, an escort out if necessary. Consistency signals you value every athlete’s psychological safety as much as physical safety.
For Athletes: Owning Your Half of the Equation
Use a “Next Play” Mentality – Bad call? Mistake? Acknowledge, flush, refocus.
Respect Up the Ladder – Officials, opponents, coaches, teammates—in that order.
Lead from the Bench – Energy is contagious; make yours constructive.
Guard Your Online Sideline – Comments on IG or TikTok count as spectator behavior. If it’s trash online, it’s trash in real life.
What to Do When Tempers Flare
Name It, Claim It, Tame It
Name the emotion (“I’m frustrated”), claim responsibility (“I’m choosing my reaction”), then tame it (breathwork, drink of water, short walk).
Use Official Channels
File concerns with athletic directors, league reps, or governing bodies—not in real-time from the bleachers.
Reset as a Community
An occasional “sportsmanship timeout” announced over the PA can halt collective momentum toward negativity.
The Ripple Effect
Positive sidelines do more than create pleasant Saturdays; they help retain officials, keep kids in sports longer, and improve mental-health outcomes. A 2023 study in Clinical Pediatrics linked lower rates of negative spectator behavior with higher athlete enjoyment and retention across four sports. SAGE Journals When we model respect, athletes mirror it on the field—and later in boardrooms, classrooms, and family rooms.
Putting It Into Action
Print and Post – Turn the 6-Point Code into a one-pager for your next parent meeting.
Share Winning Examples – Use social media to highlight great fan behavior as often as great plays.
Measure What Matters – Survey officials and visiting teams each season about your program’s sportsmanship. Improvement here is as worthy as a win-loss record.
Final Whistle
Sideline etiquette isn’t about silencing passion; it’s about channeling it. When adults own their role as partners in the athletic journey—cheering skill, respecting officials, modeling composure—we create a culture where young athletes can compete fiercely and grow freely. Print the code, practice it, and pass it on. The next generation is already watching.
References
National Federation of State High School Associations. “2024 Points of Emphasis: Sportsmanship.” NFHS
Positive Coaching Alliance. “8 Sideline Behavior Tips for Parents on Game Day.” devzone.positivecoach.org
Aspen Institute Project Play. State of Play 2024—Participation Trends. Project Play
LaRowe, S. et al. “Adult Negative Spectator Behavior at Youth Sporting Events.” Clinical Pediatrics, 2023.
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